Getting the Love You Want
A weekend workshop where you learn the skills to truly understand each other, replace conflict with connection, and build a relationship that grows stronger over time. Lectures, exercises, and guided practice — all in a safe, structured group setting.
A Guided Learning & Growth Pathway for Couples
The Getting the Love You Want workshop is a structured weekend experience where couples learn relationship skills together in a group setting. Through lectures, written exercises, live demonstrations, and guided partner practice, you gain the understanding and tools to transform your relationship from the inside out.
This is an educational experience, not group therapy. Your privacy is fully protected while you work only with your own partner.
- Ideal for couples who want to learn and grow together
- Best for couples not in acute crisis but wanting to reconnect
- Group setting with other couples (not private like the Intensive)
- Provides tools you can build on with sessions or an Intensive afterwards
Couples Who Want to Learn & Grow Together
The workshop is designed for couples at every stage who are ready to invest in understanding each other more deeply.
Couples Wanting to Reconnect
You still love each other but feel like you have drifted apart. You want to rediscover the closeness you once had and learn how to sustain it.
Couples Stuck in Conflict Patterns
The same arguments keep repeating. You want to understand why and learn a new way to communicate that actually resolves issues.
Couples Wanting to Prevent Problems
Things are okay, but you know they could be better. You want to invest in your relationship before small issues become big ones.
Couples Who Love Learning Together
You enjoy growing together and are drawn to learning the psychology behind your relationship in a structured, educational format.
Newly Committed Couples
You are starting a life together and want to build your relationship on a strong foundation of understanding and dialogue skills.
Couples Building on Previous Work
You have done some therapy or personal work and want a structured experience to take your relationship to the next level.
Six Powerful Elements in One Weekend
The workshop combines teaching, reflection, demonstration, and guided practice into a comprehensive learning experience.
Lectures & Theory
Understand the science behind your relationship dynamics and why you chose your partner. Gain insight into unconscious patterns driving conflict.
Written Exercises
Personal reflection exercises that help you uncover your unique relationship blueprint and childhood adaptations.
Live Demonstrations
Watch Kobus demonstrate the Imago Dialogue live, showing you exactly how compassionate communication works in practice.
Practice Sessions
Guided partner exercises where you practice mirroring, validating, and empathising with each other in real time.
Safe, Structured Environment
This is an educational experience, NOT group therapy. Your privacy is fully protected while you work with your partner.
Take-Home Tools
Leave with practical dialogue skills and techniques you can use immediately to sustain connection and resolve conflict at home.
Reserve Your Weekend
Choose the workshop date that works for you and your partner. Both English and Afrikaans workshops are available.
English Couples Workshop
Friday – Sunday
Afrikaans Couples Workshop
Friday – Sunday
English Couples Workshop
Friday – Sunday
Afrikaans Couples Workshop
Friday – Sunday
English Couples Workshop
Friday – Sunday
Full Workshop Schedule: Friday to Sunday, 9:00 – 18:00
A Weekend of Transformation
Through lectures, exercises, and guided dialogue, you’ll discover a new way of being together — replacing conflict with connection and understanding.
What You’ll Take Home
Eight transformative outcomes that will reshape how you relate, communicate, and love.
Master the Imago Dialogue
Learn mirroring, validation, and empathy as daily communication tools.
Understand Your Relationship Blueprint
Discover how childhood experiences shape your partner choice and conflict patterns.
Replace Conflict with Connection
Transform destructive cycles of blame and withdrawal into compassionate dialogue.
Heal Childhood Wounds Together
Use your partnership as the powerful healing environment it was meant to be.
Create Emotional Safety
Build a relationship where both partners feel heard, understood, and valued.
Reignite Romance & Passion
Rediscover the excitement and deep intimacy of your early relationship.
Develop a Shared Vision
Align on your future together with renewed purpose and commitment.
Gain Months of Growth in a Weekend
Experience the equivalent of 3–6 months of weekly therapy in one transformative weekend.
About the Workshop
Watch Kobus van der Merwe explain how the Getting the Love You Want workshop can transform your relationship.
Kobus van der Merwe — Certified Imago Relationship Therapist & Senior Faculty Member
What Happens & What to Expect
A deep dive into the workshop experience — what you’ll discover, practice, and take home with you.
What Happens in the Workshop
- Gain a new perspective on each other. In the power struggle, couples see each other as enemies and lose their true identities. You will learn how to become allies and true to yourselves — and how your marriage is a resource for repair and growth.
- Learn how to engage in dialogue. Couples need more than good communication. Sometimes communication takes you towards a power struggle and creates more distance. You will learn to talk about the good as well as the frustrations in such a way that you repair the connection and safety you have with one another.
- Commit to growth and aliveness. You will learn to commit to the relationship and to help each other grow into a full expression of aliveness. This leads to more passion and a deeper love for each other.
- Develop deep empathy for each other’s story. You will discover that your partner is not trying to harm you by being avoiding or intrusive — they are just trying to protect themselves against more pain. This empathy creates a new condition where your marriage becomes a place of healing. Once the pain heals, the power struggle dissolves.
What You Can Expect
- Greater compassion for your partner — this is something that happens to everyone who participates in the workshop.
- New skills to break destructive communication cycles. Learn how to redirect negative energy from arguments towards creating passion and stability in an enhanced relationship.
- Understand the unconscious forces that attract you to your partner — and why they are also the source of conflict. Receive more information about yourself and your partner, organised in a new, more thoughtful way.
- Re-romanticize your relationship and awaken the passion that you had for one another in the past.
- Help each other accept and conclude childhood issues that could be obstacles to growing your relationship.
- Use your relationship for emotional healing and spiritual evolution.
What You Can Expect in the Workshop
Listen to this short audio overview of the workshop experience
How Imago Dialogue Will Help You
Listen to this short audio on how the Imago Dialogue can fix relationship conflict
What Other Couples Say
Real couples sharing their experience of the Getting the Love You Want workshop.
Morné & Vicka
Bongani & Unathi
Dr. Sindeep
Workshop Pricing
An investment in your relationship that delivers lasting transformation.
- Full weekend workshop experience
- Expert facilitation by Kobus van der Merwe
- Lectures, exercises & live demonstrations
- Guided partner practice sessions
- Complete Imago Dialogue toolkit
- Educational format — NOT group therapy
- Equivalent to 3–6 months of therapy
Payable by EFT or cash. For deeper one-on-one work, explore our 3-Day Couples Intensive.
Not sure if a workshop is the right fit?
Start with a Couples Clarity Consultation. In a single session, Kobus will help you understand what is really happening in your relationship and recommend the best next step — whether that is a workshop, an intensive, ongoing sessions, or something else entirely.
Book a Clarity ConsultationWhere to Find Us
218 Cornus Street
La Montagne, Pretoria
South Africa
To register for a workshop or ask any questions, get in touch via the booking link below. You can also start with a Couples Clarity Consultation if you would like guidance on which option suits you best.
Workshop vs. Intensive
Wondering which is right for you? Here is how the workshop compares.
Group Learning Experience
You learn alongside other couples (while working privately with your own partner). The Intensive is a fully private experience.
Skill-Building Focus
The workshop teaches you core Imago skills and understanding. The Intensive provides deep, guided healing work on your specific issues.
Reconnect & Prevent
Best for couples wanting to strengthen their bond and learn before things reach crisis point. If you are in acute distress, the Intensive may be more suitable.
Foundation for Growth
Many couples use the workshop as a launching pad, then deepen their work through follow-up sessions or an Intensive later.
One Weekend Can Change Everything.
Join over 408 workshops’ worth of couples who have transformed their relationships. Your love story deserves this investment. Take the first step today.
Or start with a Couples Clarity Consultation for personalised guidance.