Stop the Fights.
Learn the Imago Dialogue.
Turn conflict into connection — starting tonight.
- De-escalate conflict with a structured, safe conversation process.
- Understand what drives your power struggle (and why it repeats).
- Practice with scripts, demos, and guided exercises.
Find Out if This Course Fits
This is for you if…
- You repeat the same argument over and over.
- One partner pursues, the other withdraws.
- You feel unsafe or unseen in conversations.
Not for you if…
- There is active violence or abuse in the relationship.
- You want results without any practice.
Everything Included for R899
Full Online Course
Five comprehensive levels covering the Imago approach from first insight to full mastery.
Dialogue App
Interactive practice prompts and structured guidance so you always know what to say next.
Power Struggle App
Map the childhood patterns driving your conflict cycle and finally see the bigger picture.
Dialogue Script
Downloadable PDF you can print and use during your practice sessions at home.
Don’t just learn. Practice.
- Know what to say when triggered.
- See your pattern clearly.
- Turn insight into repeatable action.
What Changes
Before
- Talking becomes fighting.
- Same argument, different day.
- Distance, shutdown, defensiveness.
After
- A clear process for hard conversations.
- Repair instead of escalation.
- More safety. More connection.
Five Levels. One Clear Path.
The Problem
- Your marriage is not your problem.
- The real problem + mindshift + first exercise.
The Adventure
- Why you married your partner.
- Unmet needs + power struggle.
- Exercise: identify what you long for.
Connection, Safety & Dialogue
- Conflict cycle + reptile brain.
- Choose safety.
- Mirroring demo + guided practice.
Healing Childhood & Your Imago
- Where the struggle started.
- Trust / availability.
- Partner dialogue prompts.
Full Aliveness & Working with Frustrations
- Frustrations as growth.
- Behaviour Change Dialogue tool.
Most couples do 20–30 minutes, 3x per week.
Real Results from Real Couples
We were on the verge of giving up. After just two weeks with the Dialogue App, we started hearing each other for the first time in years. The structure gave us safety. The scripts gave us words. The course gave us hope. We still argue, but now we know how to repair.
The Power Struggle App was an eye-opener. We could finally see why we kept triggering each other.
Simple, practical, and it actually works. We do one dialogue every Sunday evening now.
I was skeptical about an online course. But the apps make it feel hands-on. We practise together on the couch.
My partner was resistant at first. By Level 2 he was asking to do the next exercise. That says everything.
We stopped fighting about the dishes. Turns out the dishes were never the real issue.
The mirroring exercise alone was worth the investment. We use it every time conflict comes up.
Kobus breaks complex therapy into simple steps. We finally understand our pattern.
About Kobus
Kobus van der Merwe
- Imago International Faculty & Certified Therapist
- 23,000+ hours with couples • 408 workshops
- Harville Hendrix Award for Clinical Excellence
I work with what happens between partners.
Instant Access
- Full Online Course (Five Levels)
- Dialogue App (practice prompts + structure)
- Power Struggle / Childhood Impact App
- Downloadable Dialogue Script (PDF)
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Frequently Asked Questions
Ideally, yes. The Imago Dialogue is a couples process. However, you can start the course on your own to understand the framework, and invite your partner to join when they’re ready. Many partners become curious once they see the first few lessons.
This is very common. Start watching Level 1 on your own. Most resistant partners become interested once they see the content is practical, respectful, and non-blaming. The course is designed to feel safe for both people.
Most couples spend 20–30 minutes per session, about 3 times per week. You can move through the five levels at your own pace. Many couples complete the course in 3–4 weeks, but there is no time limit.
No. This is a psycho-educational course that teaches you the Imago Dialogue process. It is not a replacement for therapy. If you are in crisis, consider booking a session or an Imago Couples Intensive alongside the course.
The Imago Dialogue is specifically designed for couples in conflict. The structured process creates safety so both partners can be heard. However, if there is active abuse or violence, please seek professional support first.
After payment, you’ll receive an email with instant access to the full course, both apps, and the downloadable dialogue script. Everything works on desktop, tablet, and mobile — no app download required.
You have 7 days from the date of purchase to request a full refund, no questions asked. Simply email us and we’ll process it immediately.
Start Tonight.
Do one 10-minute Dialogue this week. That’s all it takes to feel the shift. The course, the apps, and the script are ready the moment you are.
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