Imago Relationship Therapy | Couples Therapy & Marriage Counselling | Pretoria, South Africa
Couples Therapy · Pretoria, South Africa

Something between you
has gone quiet.

You don’t need to know the answer yet.
You just need a clear place to start.

Start with a Clarity Consultation Not sure where to begin?
Your First Step

Not Sure Where to Start?
Start Here.

Most couples in trouble do not know whether they need an intensive, a workshop, or ongoing therapy. That uncertainty keeps them stuck.

The Couples Clarity Consultation is a focused 2-hour process designed to help you understand what is really going on, identify the core pattern driving your conflict, and get a clear professional recommendation on the best next step.

  • Greater clarity about your relationship dynamic
  • Better understanding of the core conflict pattern
  • Professional guidance on your most suitable next step
  • A clear recommendation: Intensive, Workshop, or Ongoing Sessions
R1,900 R3,300 for 2 hours • rate limited time available
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What Happens in the Consultation

A structured 2-hour process with Kobus van der Merwe

  • 1

    Your Story

    Each partner shares their experience of what is happening in the relationship, without interruption.

  • 2

    Pattern Identification

    Together, we identify the core stuck pattern driving the conflict and disconnection.

  • 3

    Professional Assessment

    Based on what emerges, Kobus provides an honest assessment of where you are and what kind of help fits best.

  • 4

    Clear Recommendation

    You leave with a professional recommendation: Couples Intensive, Workshop, or Ongoing Sessions.

Your Pathways Forward

After Your Consultation, the Right Path Becomes Clear

Based on your Clarity Consultation, Kobus will recommend the pathway best suited to your relationship. You can also enquire about any pathway directly.

Couples Intensive
3-Day Deep-Dive

Couples Intensive

For couples who need significant help quickly. Three full days of focused, facilitated work to address deep ruptures, rebuild trust, and restore connection.

  • Equivalent to 6+ months of weekly therapy
  • Private, one-couple format
  • For crisis, affairs, deep disconnection
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Couples Workshop
Weekend Experience

Couples Workshop

A guided weekend experience in a supportive group setting. Learn the tools of safe dialogue together while gaining insight into your relationship patterns.

  • Structured learning and practice
  • Group setting with private exercises
  • For growth, skill-building, reconnection
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Therapy Sessions
Ongoing Support

Relationship Sessions

Regular therapy sessions for couples who want sustained, weekly or bi-weekly support. Often the best path after an intensive or workshop, or as a standalone process.

  • Flexible scheduling
  • In-person or online
  • For steady, ongoing progress
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Kobus van der Merwe — Imago Relationship Therapist
Your Therapist

Kobus van der Merwe

Certified Imago Relationship Therapist & Clinical Trainer (Senior Faculty)

With over 30 years of experience helping couples, Kobus works with what happens between partners — not just inside each one. He has facilitated hundreds of couples intensives, workshops, and therapy processes.

As a senior faculty member of Imago Relationships International, Kobus brings deep clinical expertise combined with the warmth and directness that real couples in real trouble need.

Whether your relationship is in crisis or you simply want to reconnect, Kobus can help you find the right path forward.

Advanced Imago Therapist Workshop Presenter Senior Faculty Member
How It Works

Three Steps to the Help You Need

You do not need to figure out which service is right for you. The process is designed to guide you clearly.

1

Book a Clarity Consultation

A 2-hour focused consultation with Kobus to understand your situation and identify the core pattern.

2

Receive Your Recommendation

Based on what emerges, Kobus recommends the pathway best suited to your needs — Intensive, Workshop, or Sessions.

3

Begin Your Process

With clarity about the right path, you begin a process tailored to where your relationship actually is.

5,000+
Couples Helped
98%
Report Renewed Connection
30+
Years of Practice
95%
Reduced Conflict
What Couples Say

Real Couples, Real Results

Stories from couples who took the step and found the help they needed.

We came in thinking our marriage was over. Three days later, something had shifted between us — not just inside us, but in the way we hold each other. Kobus helped us see what was actually going on and how to begin repairing it.

J&M

Johan & Marelize

Couples Intensive

The workshop changed how we communicate entirely. We used to argue in circles. Now we actually hear each other. The tools we learnt are things we use every day. We are grateful beyond words.

D&S

David & Sarah

Couples Workshop

After an affair, we did not think our marriage could survive. The intensive gave us a space to face what had happened honestly. Today, the connection between us is deeper than it has ever been. It was the hardest and best thing we ever did.

B&N

Bongani & Nompumelelo

Couples Intensive

Common Questions

Where Should We Start?

If you are unsure what is right for you, these questions may help. Or simply book a Clarity Consultation and let us guide you.

Yes. The Clarity Consultation is designed for exactly this situation. You do not need to have decided on therapy, an intensive, or a workshop before you come. The purpose of the consultation is to help you understand what is happening and what kind of help would best fit your situation.
A Couples Intensive is a private, 3-day deep-dive with just you, your partner, and Kobus. It is best for couples in significant distress, dealing with affairs, deep disconnection, or crisis. A Workshop is a guided weekend experience in a group setting, focused on learning skills and understanding your relationship patterns. It is ideal for couples who want to grow, reconnect, or build stronger communication.
Yes, absolutely. If you already know you want a Couples Intensive, you can enquire and book directly. The Clarity Consultation is an option for couples who are not yet sure which pathway is right for them.
The standard fee is R3,300 for the full 2-hour consultation. We are currently offering a rate limited time available of R1,900. This is a genuine introductory rate to make the first step more accessible.
Ideally both partners attend the Clarity Consultation, as it is a couples process. However, if your partner is hesitant, contact us and we can discuss the best way to approach the situation. It is common for one partner to be more ready than the other.
Kobus works with couples both in person in Pretoria and online via video call. The Clarity Consultation, ongoing sessions, and workshops are all available online. Couples Intensives are typically in person, though arrangements can be discussed.
Imago Relationship Therapy is a well-established approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. It focuses on what happens between partners rather than treating individuals separately. The core method is the Imago Dialogue — a structured conversation process built on mirroring, validation, and empathy — which helps couples restore safety and genuine connection.
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Ready to Take the First Step?

You do not need to have all the answers. You just need to take one step. Book a Couples Clarity Consultation and let us help you find the right path forward.

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